Couples Therapy
Helping you find your way back to one another
You may have arrived here because…
You miss the way things once were between the two of you.
You find yourself stuck in ways of being that neither of you signed up for.
You’d like to work on the communication between the two of you.
You have a vision for what your relationship can look like, but can’t quite find a way to get there.
You want to find a way to continue to grow together not apart.
You are a fan of the Gottman Method, and would like to work with a therapist who will work from that model.
However you arrived here, I’m so glad you’re here. Read on to see if I may be a good fit for you.
Imagine recreating a relationship that’s not just “good”, but one that is Great. One that nourishes and supports you. One that you look forward to returning to after a long day. One that others see as an example, for why great relationships are possible.
This is possible for you.
I help you identify where you are stuck, and why the relationship is not working. In our first few sessions together, I will help you come up with your own autonomous goal that you can begin working on immediately to see change in your relationship. I will also help your partner do the same.
Throughout our sessions together I will help you address and resolve the problems in your relationship, ineffective communication patterns, jealousy, conflicts, impasses, resentments, attachment wounds, past hurts that continue to come up, and ongoing arguments/disagreements.
You will find that your fights will happen less frequently, and when they do they will be less intense and much more productive. You will experience breakthroughs, feel heard, and find yourself feeling like your partner understands you.
My experience with couples therapy
I did not start out thinking that I’d be a couples therapist. Yes, I chose to sign up for a marriage and family therapy masters program instead of the traditional counseling psych one, but that’s because I inherently believed that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives, and I could not subscribe to the belief that healing is an individualistic endeavor. I was determined to see individuals through that lens, but somehow couples found their way to my office and I was surprised at how much I enjoyed working with them. It is such a tender and delicate process- to help two hurting individuals find their way back to one another.
I dedicated much of my continued learning over the years to couples work. In addition to workshops and online trainings, I completed levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman method, and am currently a part of a 1 year training program with the Couples Institute. I am deeply inspired by the Bader-Pearson Developmental Couples Counseling Model, and it will be our roadmap for change. I have found their philosophy (coupled with the Gottman concepts) most helpful in bringing about lasting change, and helping couples thrive.
Why I use the Developmental Couples Counseling Model (in addition to Gottman’s Method)
I am a strong believer in Gottman’s work. I recommend his work to my therapist friends and to anyone who asks me for relationship tips. But over the years I have found that sometimes, the Gottman Method on its own is not enough to create lasting change. This is especially the case for couples where one or both partners have experiences of trauma, or substance use. The Bader-Pearson Developmental Couples Counseling Model offers a roadmap for change (kind of like the how-to for Gottman’s concepts), and that is why I use it as our guide. In our sessions together, we will use Gottman’s concepts, but the structure and pace of our session may be guided by the Developmental Model.
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