Relational & Family Issues
A space to support you .
You may have arrived here because…
You have complex family dynamics and feel uncertain on how to handle certain family issues.
You are experiencing loneliness and isolation in your relationships.
You are trying to decide if cutting off family members is the best option for you.
You have experienced a fallout with a friendship or need support navigating difficult friendship dynamics.
You are having a hard time deciding if you should stay in your relationship or move on.
You have experienced heartbreak, and are having a hard time piecing your heart back together and making sense of the experience.
However you arrived here, I’m so glad you’re here. Read on to see how I might help you.
Family Issues
Family relations can be difficult to navigate. And they can be even more complex if we grew up in families that are unhealthy. Sometimes our parents did their best, but sometimes they themselves came from families that are broken.
I find that this is true for those of us with marginalized identities. For many of us, things like racism, poverty, immigration, and/or got in the way from developing healthy relationships. I also find it to be true for those of us who grew up with a religious upbringing. Many of us grew up with scripture emphasizing the importance of being “dutiful to parents” and “kind to family members”, and now that we are in our adulthood, we find it hard to sift through what is true and what isn’t.
Wherever you came from, I can help you find a clear path that works for you. One that honors your values, and your own personhood. Healing from generational toxic family patterns is such sacred work— more often than not the changes we make to correct-course and chart a new way have a ripple effect on those around us, and can heal generational trauma. It’s an honor for me to walk alongside you as you do the work.
“It often takes just a single brave person to change the trajectory of a family, or of any system for that matter.”
— Brené Brown
Relational Issues
Our mental well-being is so closely connected to the quality of our relationships. That’s because (as one of my mentors likes to say), the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. This is not limited to romantic relationships, or the health of our family of origin— relationships matter across all contexts, and often their health (or lack thereof) directly impacts our wellbeing.
So often our symptoms of anxiety, depression, trauma, etc. are related to our relationships. Instead of focusing on “you” and “your symptoms”, we can take a look at your relational context, and how it is impacting you. So often people find healing by tending to their relational world.
I hold space for all the “other” relationships in your life. We can explore your friendships, past relationships, your relationship with your community, etc. I welcome getting to know your people, and the relational stressors you may be experiencing with them. I support you in finding ways to resolve your stressors, and experience healing in your relationships.
Your relationship with your therapist is also a relationship. Finding a good-fit therapist is so important for your healing, and it is the most important factor in predicting the outcome of therapy. This is why I believe that it is important to consult with a therapist before deciding on whether or not you’ll commit to working with them. I am also committed to using a lens of cultural humility, and welcome the opportunity to explore the complexities of race, gender, privilege, and power as they come up in our work together. Wondering if we’d be a good fit?